Sheetal Vinod share their Parenting skills...a wonderful experience..!!

I was away for more than a year.. been a busy mom learning sharing and exploring new things with Vaishu..She is healthy happy and fine by gods grace and blessings from our elders..Vaishu is 16 months now..She has always been a happy child never troubled her parents and quite matured for her age.
Just wanted to share something which we found truly magical and amazing when we tried it on her..Any new thing you introduce to a baby even if he/she is 0yrs should be briefed in advance with the help of sign language..Sign language is the best way to connect with them is what i personally feel. SAY & DO this was taught to us in the parenting program ISP [ infant siddha program ] we had attended. Have to say that this magical rule has always worked for me while taking her for shots,while i had to give her bath,travelling and in many many situations until 9 - 11 months..

Now from SAY & DO it has taken a step forward..yes Role plays..Today if i have to take her for vaccination i hav to be the doctor i have to ask qns wht doctors generally ask her i have to check her heartbeat measure her height weigh her, measure her around the head which normally all Pediacs do, explain every thing she can expect in tht room and then take her..i enjoy this..i feel happy when she relates this right when the situation arises..

Today i wish to share a cute role play me and my daughter enacted at home last week..i had to take her to a saloon to shave her head..The thought itself used to scare me a lot because friends and family had shared their bitter experiences how they howl how parents or the saloon employees had to nail the kids down and give them the hair cut..Sounded like a torture, felt what the kids might be going through...My preparations started 2 weeks before itself..i used to talk to her about the hair cut..Show her videos on youtube of the happy babies who went for the haircut..Meanwhile i could gather my piece of information about the preparation part..I was the beautician and she was my customer..i tied her bath towel around her neck..Instead of the haircuting scissors i used child safe blunt paper cutting scissors..Wipro Powder tin was my shaving machine and trrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr [ haaa haa ! ] was the sound which came out of the powder tin..Few days this drama went on and the day came to take her to the saloon..i grabbed all her fav toys, a chocolate to keep her engaged..Have to say she just took my breath away..she was so calm, quiet.i had recorded a video with the help of a lady there..9 minutes 60 seconds..well i would hav shown u right now if had the opportunity to..Let her grow up i will show her...

You tell me wont she love it ? wudn't she feel proud about herself ? Vaishu's first haircut was a memorable experience for me..Now she is bald..she looks so damn cute.. mmmmmwaaah !


Sheetal

Army,Army...!!!

I cant stop laughing before writing, just remembering fun with kids role play...they play all kinds of roles doctor, banking, police n thief, kitchen, surgeon, sometime they operate on me too, this weekend it was Army,Army!! so they are some Chief Generals protecting country from some so called  bad army attacks of other country..elder one makes plan A...he sketched a plan , call it a perfect plan, big walls, a big place with tight security, soldiers getting trained, a secret locker where weapons and documents are locked, camera's visually all over the place, elder one explains with great pride and says even an ant cannot go in without my permission or order , as am just listening actually wondering or u can say am a victim of their creativity (am still laughing ha)..which i enjoy or am made forcably enjoy as their imaginations are out of my reach ....i noticed along with me my younger son is all wide open ears and mouth and ignition to his imagination kicked off and blinking his cute eyes, sounds like he was visibly not happy that even an ant canot enter and was upset he canot either go in to his brothers well planned security system...,he started making plan B..he sketched it with a different plan of action...and he shares with me and his bro..., bro see i have a different plan, in this am good to you , am a good boy, i made entrance for both of us, it will scan u n me only and allow inside,... oooh in that case am left out, i was wondering should i make plan C to have a entry for whole family before my hubby thinks of plan D when kids repeat , show their plan to him,...well i guess am getting too involved....and curious to know what this little one has to say...big bro asked little bro, where are the soldiers for which he replies am one man army, our eyebrows raise at his confidence, he continues to say..."i have an idea, when i go on war, i will wear magnetic shirt,pant, chaddi and vest too...which will attract ,pull all the weapons off from their hands and i will turn them off...eehaha haha...!  very smart...!!ha ha ha... elder bro had to go to school now as he has Annual day celebrations and was excited .he repeatedly asked us not to miss the show and be on time and dont forget to pick him up from activity room 2, which is still ringing in my mind, i find kids too excited on such occasions at school more then anything else.well we reached in time and  he got an award as Visual and Spacial intelligent child.he was in a skit pied piper, it was thrillling for younger bro to see his big bro on stage.finally day ends spending sometime at PHD,pizza..!!! hangon that was just saturday....sunday is yet their to talk about...not holding you much...just want to share ,it was lovely spending in library.i glanced all kind of books..tony busan, mckennedy and indian authors shobha de, chetan bhagat book on marriage was so honest and clear..so real ,..i went with the flow...finally picked up a book "The road less Travelled" by M.scott peck...., truely Magnificient...this is not just a book as said but a spontaneous act of generosity written by an author who leans towards the reader for the purpose of sharing something larger than himself...it is well discussed about the nature of loving relationships, compatability, and to be a more sensitive parent...have grt week and weekend...!!!

Visualise your Vision...!!!

Visualising your vision, your goals coming true gives powerful visual messages to subconscious  brain.these mental images have been proven to impact the cognitive process including motor functions,perception,attention,planning and mrmory.when you visualise, these process get activated and prepare your brain for actual performance.if you succeed in your brain,you are likely to succeed in reality.Sherlock Holmes, played by Robert Downey Jr, has been practising this technique in the film to assess the outcome of a plan of action.Many Marshal arts are the result of the same.Suma qualified to olympics in shooting the target all 40times.lets do this excercise by experts experiencing great results, lets learn. you can practise this technique by sitting quietly for 5 to 10mins and let your breathe normalise.then imagine the details of yourself doing or achieving what you have desired for another 5 mins,it could be something simple like reaching to work in time or shape up.Gradually increase the time to visualise to 30mins.by doing so for a month ,your subconcious brain will be trained to direct your conciousness into achieving the goal. 

A stich in time saves nine !

Parenting sometime is at the edge when nothing works ...take the seat back...relax ....If you’re at your wits end, feeling depleted, exhausted and drained of your energy because of the constant tests you’ve been getting from your child or children, I hear you! And I want you to know that your're not alone.many parents all around the world are facing similar challenges.may be more extreme,then what you are facing...



You love your child. You want them to be as great as you know they can be. You want them to grow up healthy and with their head on straight. But, somewhere along the line they got "derailed" and started on a path that has led to tremendous stress and anxiety for everyone. Pick your poison. Is your child:



•Angry?

•Defiant?

•Disrespectful?

And the harder you try to control the situation, the more out of control things get. Maybe they get better for a very brief time (and you hope it will stay this way), but it never lasts and the next big blow up is always just around the corner.



defuse your child’s unproductive and negative behavior by just fixing it up in right time....

now the first most thing is put yourself at ease...do all that which brings back u to urself...! meditate.., go for a walk, chat with ur pals.., unwind all your thought process to get started ...angry mind can not think better so is it with your children.

Assuming you are more relaxed now, the next thing is work on the issues you need to sought out with children now.



for example if you are fixing child behaviour like child screams at and talks back to parents all the time.constant siblings fights and fights at school, puts you at embarassement in public by talking anything and making face at you or any, ur afraid to take them out to avoid such situations...,their are many ways to get things on track considering the age of the child.you can attempt this too....



first thing you put a stop to back talk, interrupting, face making and other negative body language.



You say to your son or daughter: "Do not speak to me that way." Or “Do not interrupt me.” Or “Do not make that face.”

you have to keep saying it until s/he stops and you must remain calm and not give up until s/he stops the behavior...they will be a bit shocked as you dont sound angry but firm and you are commanding respect.yes u read it right Command respect! atimes it works well to bring children to be cautious about what they say,how they express.

after constent reminders at their such behaviours ..u will find they started getting it right and when they do the first time at a super market or at home....remember to appreciate their effort they put to lower their temper and talk.once they have done it speak to them about the consequences of the unacceptable behaviours.whether he loses his temper or holds it, most important thing is you focus on the positive aspect. my child even though he is not at extremes but just for mild things when i say " i understand you have put your best to the task and am sure you will catchup the nextime well in hand " he would just go for it n is more at ease...coz of my trust in him.

connect to the child:read books for them..i share my childhood stories of climbing trees , catching fish, my holidaying, our mischief and the lessons learnt etc..children really love to know and they understand childhood is a phase we all go through and have our elders to nurture and guide .sometimes when i say my son..swthrt make new mistakes dont repeat the same its boring for me to remind the same again...he laughs and says ur the mom on earth i saw who is asking her son to make new mistakes....! ha ha... thats for the day...will be in touch...

Parenting starts much before Pregnency..its a Tapas..!

i was just wondering at my journey of being a parent..how i got so calm and patient answering thousands of questions my kids ask.,how everything turns into a joy with their innocent smile..I read every book I could on parenting ....I loved being pregnant. I loved feeling the baby moving within me, awed by the very fact of creating new life. I loved feeling an elbow or a knee slide across my stomach. I loved that my body could be a receptacle for bringing through this soul, this angel from heaven. I could not think of anything more profound, more worth doing..most of the important is how we as parents bond..its a great insight.!



Parenthood is something which just brings a great change in every way..changes your lifestlye from a stressful work patterns , poor diet and conciousness to yoga and meditation.their are many pre n post natal classes which give list of do's and dont's like no smoking , no alcohol , health care provider for a check-up, immunizations, take folic acid,good diet, excercise , meditate etc..i have seen people shifting to organic foods so that their body is chemical free before conception...everything falls in place the very moment you want to be a parent. the whoe idea brings back a descipline in life. yes ! i realise its a Tapas..a great Tapas! whatelse can bring you back to your self...? prepare you to create a new life in you..?



Each pregnancy is a unique experience.its a known fact that Preparing yourself and your body for pregnancy is essential because the physical and mental Health of yours before pregnancy influences the health of your future baby.



Pregnancy seems to be a time of heightened spiritual awareness for many women. It's not at all unusual for pregnant women to experience prophetic dreams about their pregnancies or babies, to notice signs which serve to guide them in their decisions or prepare them for what is to come, or even to sense things within themselves as a powerful inner knowingness -- a knowingness sometimes so strong, it leaves no room for doubts.Parenting starts much before Pregnency.