A Parent asks "My child is very shy and doesnt mingle with kids easily , even with familier people and with strangers too she feels shy to ask or express." what to do?
A shy child is anxious or inhibited in unfamiliar situations or when interacting with others. A shy child is most likely to be nervously constrained if they feel they are ‘on show’, such as when meeting someone new or having to speak in front of others. A shy child is much more comfortable to watch the action from the sidelines rather than join in.
Most children feel shy from time to time but the lives of some are severely curtailed by their shyness. Children who suffer from extreme shyness may grow out of it as they mature or they may grow up to be shy adults. Parents can help their children to overcome mild shyness.
Any expression which stops the child to grow is to be addressed if you as parent notice it is more then required. Shyness is also an expression and its cute to some extent but if it stops child from getting along with all socially and express her needs then its time to look in to it. Did you ever notice how as a parent you would have played a role in it too? for example most of the parents hold on child even when the child is able to walk, they talk on behalf of child even though she can speak, a fear of strangers is put into child , a sense of insecurity, over protectiveness , criticisms , not letting child be self, inturding into her learning hampers her self confidence, etc...their can be many such reasons for the child not being able to express , As parent one needs to create an environment for child to overcome such expressions right from toddler age. allow child interact with neigbours or kids in park. let the child express her or his needs like, when i used to make a list of groccery i used sit with him and ask him his list of things he needs and after we reach supermarket i would explain him the process and if he doesnt find , he could ask sales person for the items in the list. this way he learnt to ask, talk to strangers and feel confident that he can get and ask for himself. sending kids to neighbours home for some information , asking kid to plan games if his friends coming in to play, this way he would learn to lead the team as he has planned it and has to explain. everything is an oppurtunity for kids to learn provided you allow.Never label the child nor allow someone do so.Your criticism will hamper the childs emotions even further.Build emotional bond which helps her feel secure in any new environment.Be supportive, empathic and understanding.Share your experience of coping up with your shyness as a child and the advantages of it. appreciate their skills. Allow child to explore her world by just being around when required. IF we Parents are relaxed and do whats required they florish in no timeeffortlessly. I remember My child was shy when he joind his school and at the of the term he was given title" Lion of the Class"..!! And He is ...!!
A shy child is anxious or inhibited in unfamiliar situations or when interacting with others. A shy child is most likely to be nervously constrained if they feel they are ‘on show’, such as when meeting someone new or having to speak in front of others. A shy child is much more comfortable to watch the action from the sidelines rather than join in.
Most children feel shy from time to time but the lives of some are severely curtailed by their shyness. Children who suffer from extreme shyness may grow out of it as they mature or they may grow up to be shy adults. Parents can help their children to overcome mild shyness.
Any expression which stops the child to grow is to be addressed if you as parent notice it is more then required. Shyness is also an expression and its cute to some extent but if it stops child from getting along with all socially and express her needs then its time to look in to it. Did you ever notice how as a parent you would have played a role in it too? for example most of the parents hold on child even when the child is able to walk, they talk on behalf of child even though she can speak, a fear of strangers is put into child , a sense of insecurity, over protectiveness , criticisms , not letting child be self, inturding into her learning hampers her self confidence, etc...their can be many such reasons for the child not being able to express , As parent one needs to create an environment for child to overcome such expressions right from toddler age. allow child interact with neigbours or kids in park. let the child express her or his needs like, when i used to make a list of groccery i used sit with him and ask him his list of things he needs and after we reach supermarket i would explain him the process and if he doesnt find , he could ask sales person for the items in the list. this way he learnt to ask, talk to strangers and feel confident that he can get and ask for himself. sending kids to neighbours home for some information , asking kid to plan games if his friends coming in to play, this way he would learn to lead the team as he has planned it and has to explain. everything is an oppurtunity for kids to learn provided you allow.Never label the child nor allow someone do so.Your criticism will hamper the childs emotions even further.Build emotional bond which helps her feel secure in any new environment.Be supportive, empathic and understanding.Share your experience of coping up with your shyness as a child and the advantages of it. appreciate their skills. Allow child to explore her world by just being around when required. IF we Parents are relaxed and do whats required they florish in no timeeffortlessly. I remember My child was shy when he joind his school and at the of the term he was given title" Lion of the Class"..!! And He is ...!!
