well its quite a time i wrote something...so am here to share a bit....it was bedtime and my son while he tucks into his bed says...."mom you know am practicing hiphop on justin beaver songs, n i google searched about this guy...he looks cool but not so cool , and u know what he and his girl freind make 100 calls to eachother per day., thats crazy..isnt it..."....i said ya looks like they are on a crazy space now and they are ok with it...he 13 yrs n Am a Teens Mom..got to deal with his doubts etc....theirs lot happening around , nation raised voice on Nirbhaya case and now the two solidiers death and so on...yes i completely agree govt has to make some laws and implement , women need to learn self protection and all that, now all these are long term solutions , it may take time but until then at individual level what can i do is my stand. i cant wait for the laws to change , my kids may grow up. so here is what i can do, teach my kids about child abuse(refer to good touch n bad touch article on the blog) , self empowerment which includes self protection , sex education, physical fitness etc.teach them respect women by doing so, do not boost boys ego by doing things for them just coz they are boys,extend the same concern to your friends and society. educate self and others in ur way.every small thing makes a difference in the childs growth and understandings.we need to be aware off.
another important thing i feel, its working with me is, let children learn handle situations by being aware of it. when my kids come over with their complaints on eachother for things like he took my papers , pencils, toys or cycle or any fight ...all they want is me to hear and solve it sometimes and atimes we tend to judge and tell them behave well...and we emotionaly get involved in it and it becomes a big thing to handle, what i did is i told them they are now growing up and need to check their words and actions as mom cant be everywhere , so when they fight i just hear to them and remind them that if they have done some mistake, learn from it, its a self check list, now everytime i dont hv to tell them whats wrong and right...they check and i just remind them to see how they can add beauty , care, silence n all that to the family and every where they go.. its like oh ur upset , u want to scream, hit...just check how will it help u or other, just take few seconds and think....everytime its gone be better and better as they watching themselfs, we dont tell them constantly good and bad, they know it within..and the consequences too.just keep reminding that they have the stregnth within to be aware off themselves and by doing so they contribute alot to the surroundings and people.In long run they learn to handle themselves and situation well.
another important thing i feel, its working with me is, let children learn handle situations by being aware of it. when my kids come over with their complaints on eachother for things like he took my papers , pencils, toys or cycle or any fight ...all they want is me to hear and solve it sometimes and atimes we tend to judge and tell them behave well...and we emotionaly get involved in it and it becomes a big thing to handle, what i did is i told them they are now growing up and need to check their words and actions as mom cant be everywhere , so when they fight i just hear to them and remind them that if they have done some mistake, learn from it, its a self check list, now everytime i dont hv to tell them whats wrong and right...they check and i just remind them to see how they can add beauty , care, silence n all that to the family and every where they go.. its like oh ur upset , u want to scream, hit...just check how will it help u or other, just take few seconds and think....everytime its gone be better and better as they watching themselfs, we dont tell them constantly good and bad, they know it within..and the consequences too.just keep reminding that they have the stregnth within to be aware off themselves and by doing so they contribute alot to the surroundings and people.In long run they learn to handle themselves and situation well.
