after becoming a mom ..It’s not that I hated how I looked, really. It’s just that after a while, it was hard to be judged, and not start co-signing the judgments. Maybe my skin was getting a little dark...lot of hormonal changes.. My affinity for books and dolls little too nerdy.
some folks -- mostly adults -- stood at the ready to remind me of this..I shouldn’t play in the sun because my skin may spoil even more ... friends often clucked that am “getting fat.” I alternated between being barely able to cope with the daily responsibilities of motherhood and mind-numbing confusion.i must say...sometimes My days felt like a marathon disaster movie, starring me racing around after my child to prevent him from hurling himself from high places and/or gleefully electrocuting himself. My nights were a study in sleep deprivation, with kids waking up every two hours ...my passion to many things has to be substituted....but still..... Being a mom is both a pleasant and challenging life-time event...you have the power to recreate and bring new life to this world. You get the chance to witness a baby grown, from inside of you, and grow into a responsible, happy and successful adult. There is no other feeling similar to that of the maternal impulse. my day goes with books, crayons, or blocks..looking around for caterpillers turning to butterflies with kids and so on... ,everyday i prepare myselves for the adventure and experience of a lifetime! It is crazy how some believe that bearing a child is the end of their lives but actually, what they fail to see is that, it is a new beginning.. Your baby is an extention of yourself .. Motherhood is your time to discover new and fresh ways to raise a healthy, sound-minded soul…thats the beauty in me..in being a mom.....its nice that am learning to embrace every moment and comment ...great...thanks...
srujana.
some folks -- mostly adults -- stood at the ready to remind me of this..I shouldn’t play in the sun because my skin may spoil even more ... friends often clucked that am “getting fat.” I alternated between being barely able to cope with the daily responsibilities of motherhood and mind-numbing confusion.i must say...sometimes My days felt like a marathon disaster movie, starring me racing around after my child to prevent him from hurling himself from high places and/or gleefully electrocuting himself. My nights were a study in sleep deprivation, with kids waking up every two hours ...my passion to many things has to be substituted....but still..... Being a mom is both a pleasant and challenging life-time event...you have the power to recreate and bring new life to this world. You get the chance to witness a baby grown, from inside of you, and grow into a responsible, happy and successful adult. There is no other feeling similar to that of the maternal impulse. my day goes with books, crayons, or blocks..looking around for caterpillers turning to butterflies with kids and so on... ,everyday i prepare myselves for the adventure and experience of a lifetime! It is crazy how some believe that bearing a child is the end of their lives but actually, what they fail to see is that, it is a new beginning.. Your baby is an extention of yourself .. Motherhood is your time to discover new and fresh ways to raise a healthy, sound-minded soul…thats the beauty in me..in being a mom.....its nice that am learning to embrace every moment and comment ...great...thanks...
srujana.
Darling Srujana,
ReplyDeleteYou are always cute. Dark or fair, fat or slim, tired or energetic!
The beauty lies in the eyes of the one who sees, rather than the seen.
Just like how you feel of your children, I too feel of my cute children like you.
Of course, I also opined that you are neglecting your well being and lost focus. But soon I realised that you are enjoying whatever you are doing and so you know the truth and if not, soon will realise (like me).
Now-a-days I suggest mothers (especially of the infants), to take care of their personal physical and mental structures. Nursing mothers have a notion that if they eat a lot, they will produce enough milk for the baby. Of course mal-nutrition is a cause for insufficient milk production. Yet, mother should first be a beautiful wife and an angel to her children. Many mothers do neglect to dress well even. I have a total 'NO!" to this.
Each woman has a right to dress well and be attractive. It is nature's principle to the delicate women to have their delicacy maintained for the delicious life.
Being a mother is not a sacrifice. It is, in fact, adding more beauty. When I see the gleaming glitter in the (balinthalu) mother of a just born, I feel jealous of the fair sex. God is unfair to the male.
Mother should always be an example of grace, dynamism, dedication, glamor, grand looks and generosity. Father is normally rough and busy not caring for the appearance. but an ideal for honesty and power.
But even men neglect their health working hard for their child's future. It does not make them any holier. They simply put on a lot of weight as soon as their wife becomes pregnant simply because his wife is now not much attractive. So the wife after delivery loses her grown tummy, but it remains with the husband for ever! We call them EPND- Ever Pregnant Never Delivers!
I wish the couple be more conscious of their looks and health after they prepare themselves to be parents, because they are the best ideal couple for their own children.
A girl should feel that I must be like my mamma! and the boy should feel, I must be like my pappa.
Be those ideals fro you children. Be an example of the vision you have for your child. It is not impossible.
Things can run smooth and easy for the couple even after they become parents only if they stay in a joint family. Did you notice it withe rich Marwadi families? The girl keeps growing in her glamor as she delivers more and more children. It is the commune in which she lives matter. They always take care of the child and even the mother. Having a baby is not the job of a couple! It is the welcome of the family or the commune. I am sure then, the children and the parents both can enjoy their freedom and the innocence. Their eyes will always shine.
Regards,
Raviji
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Dear Raviji,
ReplyDeleteits an awesome reply ...very true that beauty lies in the eyes of the one who sees...and for which i feel one most be able to see beauty in oneself and nurture it...that is what my mail was about...yes mothers and fathers neglect their health....over eating is one thing which makes them go out of physic..another important thing is coz as you said they live individual family not in joint family, they lack support system where in they dont get space to spend time for themselves untill the child goes for a full time school, lack of sleep and tiredness add to it...but their is always a solution for everything...they can pool in with friends, be in touch with other parents, go for walks with children,burn some calaories....pamper urself with some massages....meditate..have some nice friends like you to guide and share ..i was having great fun working with you all.. anu, gayatri ma and those teachers trainings we used do were so much learning for ourselves...now am in a different phase and yes am enjoying this very much...am sure life has something new to experience always..great...thanku
srujana.