To begin with am doing good..enjoying the monsoon...every leaf is fresh and happy with the rains tickling them....coming to something i wanted to share ,.as we all give our best to make life effortless journey so it is with parenting as well...but most of the parents carry an inbuilt fear of having a child or another child as , it could be due to various reasons like work stress, time management, health issue, no mindset or confidence to take care of another child, financial issues etc...everyone has something to say oh my god !! one more child , No not now... family and friends reminders to have another child doesn't sink in well and some have it under pressure or thinking first child needs company , some do love having a child just for no reason too...may be its time to think on it...its not the idea but the process of parenting that has to be nurtured ...every small thing has to be tackled and considered with love but also great patience like...
1.Healthy diet, exercise before and during pregnency .
2.Enroll for post and pre-pregnency workshops, read books, knowledge yourself on every aspect.
3. Vision..visualize yourself and the baby's well being.
4. Buildup the bond between wife and husbend.
5.Chalkout the newborns list .
6.Keep yourself Happy.
the list goes on...now after birth most of the issues comes with desciplining in terms of food of the child, behaviour, habbits etc..All these issues can be solved with a bit of skillfull parenting where you need to see the emotions and the issue as two seperate things...your teaching children to learn handle themselves which they atually love to do so...child wants to bath herself but out of love we interupt,..even with eating, cleaning, etc due to lack of patience or assume that they cant...let them attempt and they will eventually do all by themselves ..as early as better..like...
1. Good sleep for parents as important as for the child. so initially its said to be good bond to put baby to sleep by parents as it builds the bond but slowly you start teaching them or actually allow them to put themselves to sleep right from infant stage like when baby wakes up in middle of her sleep , dont rush to rescue her sleep hearing babbling sounds, wait for sometime and observe from far allowing her to put herself to sleep, if she is unable to then you could go ahead but slowly they learn to sleep self.at certain age make a child friendly bed with colorful bedspreads and things around and encourage them to sleep in their room.
2. Behaviour : this has to come naturaly when they connect themselves to everything around them...no doubt but yes some skillfull tackling goes with it when it comes to put a stop to pinching, hitting etc which they pickup by seeing others i guess.... positive fear is good to give when said that they can't jump from deep heights or hurt someone. explain the consequences depending on their age..give timeouts , No is No when its comes to stoping anything that is not accepted well like pulling, pushing, rudeness etc...as it is said a plant can bend well then a tree so as early as better..Be Kind but be Firm too.
1.Healthy diet, exercise before and during pregnency .
2.Enroll for post and pre-pregnency workshops, read books, knowledge yourself on every aspect.
3. Vision..visualize yourself and the baby's well being.
4. Buildup the bond between wife and husbend.
5.Chalkout the newborns list .
6.Keep yourself Happy.
the list goes on...now after birth most of the issues comes with desciplining in terms of food of the child, behaviour, habbits etc..All these issues can be solved with a bit of skillfull parenting where you need to see the emotions and the issue as two seperate things...your teaching children to learn handle themselves which they atually love to do so...child wants to bath herself but out of love we interupt,..even with eating, cleaning, etc due to lack of patience or assume that they cant...let them attempt and they will eventually do all by themselves ..as early as better..like...
1. Good sleep for parents as important as for the child. so initially its said to be good bond to put baby to sleep by parents as it builds the bond but slowly you start teaching them or actually allow them to put themselves to sleep right from infant stage like when baby wakes up in middle of her sleep , dont rush to rescue her sleep hearing babbling sounds, wait for sometime and observe from far allowing her to put herself to sleep, if she is unable to then you could go ahead but slowly they learn to sleep self.at certain age make a child friendly bed with colorful bedspreads and things around and encourage them to sleep in their room.
2. Behaviour : this has to come naturaly when they connect themselves to everything around them...no doubt but yes some skillfull tackling goes with it when it comes to put a stop to pinching, hitting etc which they pickup by seeing others i guess.... positive fear is good to give when said that they can't jump from deep heights or hurt someone. explain the consequences depending on their age..give timeouts , No is No when its comes to stoping anything that is not accepted well like pulling, pushing, rudeness etc...as it is said a plant can bend well then a tree so as early as better..Be Kind but be Firm too.
3. Daily chores: allow them to learn their daily chores as young as possible like brush, bath, dressup, cleanup like put toys back, mop the spilled water, color etc...its important as they feel the power in them to be able to set things back..Often we do the job for them because we can do it with less hassle, but the result is they feel unimportant.actually you make them feel powerful, valuable, independent and included as they are part of everything ..helping in shopping list, cooking, cleaning etc. In this process parents have to spend less time on doing their chores and get more quality time to teach them higher. initially it may be cute to do everything for them but unknowingly your energy levels drop and you feel your occupied whole day. this puts parents on to back seat as they are tired for anything for themselves or the child.
4.Food; I have seen Mothers with a bowl of food feeding child running behind ...in the house then neighbours and the road too...as they feel feed them is easy...no its not as its tiring for both .. its not healthy either moving around and eating chokes food. make an habbit of sitting in one place and eating right from infant, toddler stage. let them relish food. allow them to eat themselves like starting with snacks. almost all children in village learn eat early as they are allowed to do so.slowly they learn to cleanup the food they spill so they are more careful they dont spill.
lot to share , i have been careful but yes learning some good mistakes too...more to write ..will do again...all i want to say is Being Responsiple is Great but Teacing children to be Responsible is Highest Responsibilty too. ...with little care about these little things would be a bueatiful beginning of the journey in parenting....Goodluck...!!!
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