the more you talk the more they repeat..!

You should be wondering Talk about what..? how many times did you say the child to keep his shoes in place..,or do not scribble on walls...or no shouting in library,,n how many times you discussed it with many of your freinds to destress yourself or get a solution or get a chance to compare ur children with them right infront of the child....not realising your drilling your anxieties to him unknowngly and they carry it as their identity...the more you talk the more they repeat...! you can do the above but not in the presence of child..i have seen many parents they complain about child .., enact and make fun off..children are like raw clay..it takes the shape you give so why not be gentle and soft by expressing what we see in them and how it can be better..just remind them their potential...their loving nature..never ever discuss the childs mistakes whether its about not sharing a choclate,, a crayon or bicycle...never pointout that he doesn't share..or doesn't obey parents etc....even when some one points at my child ..i just take the hold of the position and remind the child he is so wonderful and that how he shared his toys and snacks with his freinds the other day....sometimes it works and sometimes it takes time but its ok to own somethings ...dont you ...? so let the child learn to let go...!