Everyone wants a time space for them self which is important to grow with , introspect and evolve. many parents share and wonder why children don't give that time space for parents to be themselves. Parents wonder why don't children understand when told so clearly and repeatedly . i was wondering when i heard parents talk and how they get stressed off due to this reason. This is because most of the parents have done the same with the child. How? when a child was cutting a paper , learning to hold scissors what was our reaction No and parents stop it , when parents in hurry and child is observing a toy in toy shop or at home, they stop them and ask them to simply follow without any questions, when child is playing in mud , water or running around , every activity that is a developmental mile stone for the child , knowingly or unknowingly interrupted and stopped .now child can not concentrate and gets distracted easily as he is used to get interrupted. when we interrupt in child's growth he looses it as well, he repeats the same with parents. allow the child to explore and you just participate in his growth like a facilitator. this is the first step of respecting child's activities which may allow him to explore his inner creativity and outer world as well.
Second thing, normally parents give instruction to children saying" leave me alone i want to stay myself and can talk later, be quite". this gives child a sought of separation anxiety and as well thinking why can't he be the reason of your joy anymore, etc. Now one needs to understand and think if you are including your child in your silence too!!!! very important to express and make child feel that you are with the child and child with you together in silence observing self, so child is moving around and yet calm as he understands you need time to be yourself. child is calm as he knows he is included in your silence too rather you don't say " Leave me alone, just go, don't disturb me or knock my door as i want to be alone for some time" when you say this to the child, he is left with lot of questions with in why , how , what , etc Inclusion in silence too allows the child to stay calm. you allow child to grow with in by not interrupting in his growth , by allowing him to complete his learning !! sense of being together is empowering and important to be with or let go.
lets meditate together...lets experience silence together ....in the presence or absence of each other!!
Second thing, normally parents give instruction to children saying" leave me alone i want to stay myself and can talk later, be quite". this gives child a sought of separation anxiety and as well thinking why can't he be the reason of your joy anymore, etc. Now one needs to understand and think if you are including your child in your silence too!!!! very important to express and make child feel that you are with the child and child with you together in silence observing self, so child is moving around and yet calm as he understands you need time to be yourself. child is calm as he knows he is included in your silence too rather you don't say " Leave me alone, just go, don't disturb me or knock my door as i want to be alone for some time" when you say this to the child, he is left with lot of questions with in why , how , what , etc Inclusion in silence too allows the child to stay calm. you allow child to grow with in by not interrupting in his growth , by allowing him to complete his learning !! sense of being together is empowering and important to be with or let go.
lets meditate together...lets experience silence together ....in the presence or absence of each other!!
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